Howdy!. My post today, is on older dating, the precautions, problems, basic principles involved in mature dating.
Older single women are easily written off as the ones who would never find love again. In Nigeria especially, a woman who is still single at age 45 would already be considered as a ‘forever single candidate’. In all honesty, it is harder to date once you have advanced a certain age. All I can say is Love has no best before date. No matter how old you are, there is a right person patiently waiting for you. Although, Dating at an older age entails a lot of things than just the surface dating process. Because as time passes, a lot is acquired and a lot of factors are bound to make dating harder at this age; series of heartbreaks from past relationships, a child or more out of wedlock, ex husbands, differences in circumstances and life experiences, less people in the dating market, lack of time, energy and mobility to start the whole dating scenario.

However, all these shouldnt turn you down and make you discouraged. If you really want a sole mate I suggest that you go for it! Below are some common guidelines to mature dating.

Once you meet someone that you are interested in then you can be as serious or otherwise as you like. Do not feel that this hasto end in marriage or that sex even has to be involved – at this age you make the rules and if you set clear guidelines at the start then you can enjoy a relationship that will give youboth what you need without getting too complicated.

Mutual Respect: Others are just as valuable as you
Our generation has made history as ambassadors of a “what’s-in-it-for-me” society. Much of the dating advice today supports this attitude. Just make your wishlist and check it against your date. While dating can be fun, for most mature singles it is about finding a life-mate. When you date, treat him with respect. Be on time and be interested. If there is mutual attraction, share your likes and dislikes openly. Don’t get lost in keeping score.
Respect that a first date is a fishing trip to determine if there is enough interest for a second date. By all means give each other achance. If you are not interested, don’t leadhim on. You are mature and don’t need a black book filled with admirers. If you like him, but the feeling is not mutual, make it easy to call the quits. Treat your date the way you would want to be treated.
Moral Responsibility: You are always morally responsible to those with whom youhave a relationship
This begs the question as to when a relationship begins. You have graduated from the coffee shop to seeing a movie. He wined and dinned you and now invites you to a barbeque with friends. While this is not a marriage proposal, it is nevertheless personal. No red flags have popped up yet and you accept the invitation. This has the potential for a relationship.
Now is the time to get to know him instead of looking over the shoulder for other suitors. Here is why: often relationships between dating singles neverdevelop because they are occupied with multiple dates. Sleeping with multiple datesis morally irresponsible to each one. Be as responsible as you would be to your best friend, because he may be that some day.
Authenticity: Love only happens when youare real
*. Have you ever found yourself laughing simply because everyone else did? Told someone you had a fabulous time when you didn’t or said: “I love you” when you didn’t mean it? Did you ever do something inconsistent with your true self just to please someone or get what you wanted?
Of course we all have. We have lost the bravery to be real! For many there is quite a gap between the person inside and the person we present to the world. In the competitive world of dating misrepresentation is at an all time high.
If you seek love, forget about how to make him fall in love with you. Forget about Mars and Venus, in the real world we are all human beings first, men and women second. Most singles over 50 want to love and belong. Wear what makes you feel like a million dollar babe, not what you think impresses him.
While you are not to disclose your sexual history on a first date, be straightforward ontopics that you are comfortable with. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Be authentic and be honest! Don’t waste your precious time pretending to be what you arenot. You may not land many second dates, but at this stage it is about quality, not quantity. Love only happens when you are real.

You might have been out of the game for a while, but there is no reason that it is too lateto get back on the horse and if you do then you are likely to find that the benefits drastically outweigh the difficulties as you find a partner to share your life with.

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