Category: The single girl’s tips


Zoned!

We get all the whinings of you guys about ‘how she zoned me’. Yes, we know, its a  messed up situation, when you have hidden feelings for a girl that asks you what colour of panties she should wear on a date (Am not the only girl who does that right? :$) and is entirely oblivious of the reasons why you hesitate to give her your ‘cute friend’s pin’, she wants to pillow fight with you and jump on you just to laugh and continue watching TV, meanwhile you are dealing with an uncontrollable hard-on, she comes back to weep on your shoulders about her broken heart and scream ‘All guys are LOSERS!!’ she makes you her emotional sanitary pad!,. The situation is entirely laughable!( Unless you are gay though, You enjoy that shii!) But I’m here to advice not to gloat over your misfortunes.But I want to put it to you before I go further, No girl put you in the friend zone, you put yourself there!!.
If you’re tired of being her heart wipe and be the one she really puts in her heart, I’ll tell you how
The first motive is to spend less time with her. You can’t be oogling around her all day and expect her to fall in love with yo ass!. Let her have some space, let her breathe, let her miss you and while you are MIA spread your arms and be a man!.Achieve things, do stuffs that’ll make her see the man in you.Then when she complains about you not being around, “make it up to her” and take her out not to your ususal spot, somewhere exquiste. But put a rein on your groins! It not time for sex yet!.
 
 
Don’t you ever ever ever ever ever express your feelings directly to her!. That’s a terrible idea, you end up getting answers like
“You’re like a brother to me”
“We need to be just friends”
“I already love you as a friend and I can share anything with you!”
“I don’t want to jeopardize our friendship”
“I’m on my period!” (Again, I’m I the only one who has said that? :$ :s 😦 )
Bruh, don’t do that! You’ll end up either being zoned deeper, or its going to get really awkward with te both of you.
 
Make her see that some other girls want you or you want them, preferably really hot chicks. Jog up her emotions a bit. Some harmless flirting with her friends will do, or commenting on some random girl’s booty or something.
 
Aha! Lest I forget, I hope she’s not in a relationship?. Dating someone else?, your friend? your brother?.. She is?… Nicca what are you doing here?. Google search ‘How to make a girl leave her boyfriend for me’. After she’s left her boyfriend and she zones you, please come back and and read this article!.
Let’s carry-on.
 
 
 
Now, you want to make her see you as more than her buddy but also the body she can lay on! 😉 Talk to her about sex, your fantasies and things like that. And you know how girls are moved by love and connections, talk to her about the difference between sex and love making!. Make her want you. goddammit!!
P.S: Don’t have sex with her if you are still ‘just a friend’. Thats going to put you in the friends with benefits zone. There ought to be a mutual understanding between you two.
 
Finally, make comments that enlighten her, tell her you’re jealous of how she smiled at the cab guy, ask her how you look, tell her sweet nothings, girls like it like that, make her understand where you are going to!.
 
So there goes!!!. Follow these sensibly, don’t act like a horny teenage boy and then you’ll get her professing love for you in no time!!.Out of the zone
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Thank me later!!
You can go now!!
Here’s the green lightgo_now
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

ImageGood evening ladies and gentlemen. Tonight’s post is inspired by a friend of mine who tirelessly threw herself at a certain guy just because she liked him and could not read the writtings on the wall that he was not interested. For me, the worst case scenario in any form of ‘boy-girl’ relationship is when the girl has to force the boy to like her just because of desperacy!.  I still prefer the old methods of the man being the ‘chaser’, its more convinient!. Anyway, below are ten top signs that he is not into you

 

SIGNS THAT HE IS NOT INTRESTED IN YOU

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Sign 1
He doesn’t ask you out. Don’t fool yourself by playing “what if” – “What if he’s shy?”, “What if he doesn’t know I’m single?”, “What if he doesn’t think I’m interested in him?”. Men will overcome any shyness they may have in order to ask out a woman. They will go to great lengths to find out if she’s single and they do not even think about the possibility that she may not like them. The only reason he is not asking you out is because heis not interested in you.

Sign 2
He doesn’t call. He did not loose your number and he isn’t too busy. Even the busiest person will make time for someone they care about. Men are not stupid, so on the off chance he did loose your number, he would find a way to get a hold of you if he wanted. Do not continue to call him numerous times, letting him know how to get a hold of you. He already knows how to get a hold of you. You know how you roll your eyes or scream “leave me alone” at the phone when that one creepy guy keeps calling you? This man is doing the same thing every time you call. Don’t make him think of you as that creepy woman who can’t take a hint.

Sign 3
He does call but it’s always late at night and he’s drunk. This is known as a booty call. The only purpose for this call is because he is drunk, horny and struck out at the bar. Do not fool yourself into thinking he must like you because he thought of you. If he liked you he would have called earlier in the week, when he was sober, and asked you out on a date.

Sign 4
He has asked you out on a date but he isn’t engaging in conversation. I have no idea who made up the stereotype that men don’t talk but it is not true. Men talk just as much as women do. When a man is interested in you he will share information about himself and ask you questions about your life.

Sign 5
He talks about other women. When a man starts telling you about other women in his life he is making it clear that he is not interested in you.

Sign 6
He flirts with other women in front of you. This is a definite sign that you do not have his attention.

Sign 7
When he’s with you, he isn’t “with” you. You’re telling him about  job you just got and he’s pinging his brother about the Man U vs Chelsea match next weekend. This is his way of telling you that he finds just about anything to be more important than you.

Sign 8
He says he thinks of you as a sister or doesn’t want to ruin your friendship. That may sound sweet but the truth is no man worries about ruining a friendship if he is truly interested in a woman.

Sign 9He won’t plan ahead. If he asks you out, it’s always at the last minute. This is because he didn’t find anyone better to ask out. You may even point out to him that it would be nice if he could ask you out earlier in the week for the weekend and he tells you that he just can’t plan that far in advance. However, he has tickets to go to Stanford bridge next year!

Sign 10
He cancels plans at the last minute or just doesn’t show up. He made plans with you but then something “better” came along. He met a new woman that day, one of his friends called or he decided that he’d rather stay home. Either way he’s saying that you’re not that important to him.

 

So sweetheart, take off the blindfolds and open your eyes, dont make your self one of the desperate cases. And maybe while your eyes are open, you may find that man that’s willing to chase you for all he’s worth!!

You’ve been dating the love of your life for years now, you both have been through it all, the good, the bad and the ugly, you are pretty sure he’s the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, but you don’t know whether or not he wants to take you to the altar!. Sweetheart you need to sit down and consider the signs he’s been giving you!

SIGNS THAT HE WON’T MARRY YOU
1. He’s Evasive About the Future
It is generally not a good idea to discuss marriage and babies on the first date.if you and your guy talk about jobs, careers, rent, trips, family and holidays, you should trust the relationship enough to discuss your future. Otherwise it becomes a vicious circle if neither of you bringing it up while the woman is silently waiting for something to change. This just causes more doubt and uneasiness. You’ll be surprised how this type of discussion isn’t soscary or difficult with the right guy.

2. He Wants to Be More Successful, More Financially Secure
There is intense pressure for men to be the breadwinner. Even though most women I know are successful professionals, it’s understandable that most men want to knowthey can provide for their wife and family. While there is a time and place to focus on a career or education, to constantly hear “I’m not in a place to marry anyone right now” is confusing and frustrating. It keeps a relationship in perpetual limbo. Also, it repeatedly tells the woman that this decision isn’t hers. Instead it is when he is “ready.” Who really knows the hard times couples mayface together in the future? Recognize that his resistance may be to marrying you.

3. He “Doesn’t Know”: . If you feel confident you are with the man you want to marry and asking him elicits a half-hearted, non-committal answer — realize what’s really going on. No one should take marriage lightly, but at some point, you must lay all your cards on the table. What other information does he think he needs to know?When in doubt, direct questions often give you the right answer even if when it is “I don’t know.” It may not be what you want to hear, but it’s the truth.

4. He Can Only Talk about Weddings or Marriage While Being Sarcastic, Ironic or Snarky
Every chance he gets, your boyfriend makes cynical, snarky remarks about marriage.sometimes you feel this is an edgy, non-conformist personality and you like it.You better see it now as a glaring neon sign tellingyou its never going to happen.

Ultimately it’s not about a wedding. It’s not about the proposal story or a ring on your finger. It’s about two people falling in love and wanting to build a life together. If you’re deeply unhappy with someone but you think his proposal will change things, it won’t. It will distract you from the real issues for a while, but they will still be there. Marriage canbe a wonderful thing, but only if both parties are equally committed. Trust me, you don’t want to talk someone into wanting to marry you. If he’s giving you signs that he doesn’t want to marry you, heed them. You’ll thank him years from now.

Howdy!. My post today, is on older dating, the precautions, problems, basic principles involved in mature dating.
Older single women are easily written off as the ones who would never find love again. In Nigeria especially, a woman who is still single at age 45 would already be considered as a ‘forever single candidate’. In all honesty, it is harder to date once you have advanced a certain age. All I can say is Love has no best before date. No matter how old you are, there is a right person patiently waiting for you. Although, Dating at an older age entails a lot of things than just the surface dating process. Because as time passes, a lot is acquired and a lot of factors are bound to make dating harder at this age; series of heartbreaks from past relationships, a child or more out of wedlock, ex husbands, differences in circumstances and life experiences, less people in the dating market, lack of time, energy and mobility to start the whole dating scenario.

However, all these shouldnt turn you down and make you discouraged. If you really want a sole mate I suggest that you go for it! Below are some common guidelines to mature dating.

Once you meet someone that you are interested in then you can be as serious or otherwise as you like. Do not feel that this hasto end in marriage or that sex even has to be involved – at this age you make the rules and if you set clear guidelines at the start then you can enjoy a relationship that will give youboth what you need without getting too complicated.

Mutual Respect: Others are just as valuable as you
Our generation has made history as ambassadors of a “what’s-in-it-for-me” society. Much of the dating advice today supports this attitude. Just make your wishlist and check it against your date. While dating can be fun, for most mature singles it is about finding a life-mate. When you date, treat him with respect. Be on time and be interested. If there is mutual attraction, share your likes and dislikes openly. Don’t get lost in keeping score.
Respect that a first date is a fishing trip to determine if there is enough interest for a second date. By all means give each other achance. If you are not interested, don’t leadhim on. You are mature and don’t need a black book filled with admirers. If you like him, but the feeling is not mutual, make it easy to call the quits. Treat your date the way you would want to be treated.
Moral Responsibility: You are always morally responsible to those with whom youhave a relationship
This begs the question as to when a relationship begins. You have graduated from the coffee shop to seeing a movie. He wined and dinned you and now invites you to a barbeque with friends. While this is not a marriage proposal, it is nevertheless personal. No red flags have popped up yet and you accept the invitation. This has the potential for a relationship.
Now is the time to get to know him instead of looking over the shoulder for other suitors. Here is why: often relationships between dating singles neverdevelop because they are occupied with multiple dates. Sleeping with multiple datesis morally irresponsible to each one. Be as responsible as you would be to your best friend, because he may be that some day.
Authenticity: Love only happens when youare real
*. Have you ever found yourself laughing simply because everyone else did? Told someone you had a fabulous time when you didn’t or said: “I love you” when you didn’t mean it? Did you ever do something inconsistent with your true self just to please someone or get what you wanted?
Of course we all have. We have lost the bravery to be real! For many there is quite a gap between the person inside and the person we present to the world. In the competitive world of dating misrepresentation is at an all time high.
If you seek love, forget about how to make him fall in love with you. Forget about Mars and Venus, in the real world we are all human beings first, men and women second. Most singles over 50 want to love and belong. Wear what makes you feel like a million dollar babe, not what you think impresses him.
While you are not to disclose your sexual history on a first date, be straightforward ontopics that you are comfortable with. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Be authentic and be honest! Don’t waste your precious time pretending to be what you arenot. You may not land many second dates, but at this stage it is about quality, not quantity. Love only happens when you are real.

You might have been out of the game for a while, but there is no reason that it is too lateto get back on the horse and if you do then you are likely to find that the benefits drastically outweigh the difficulties as you find a partner to share your life with.

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Goodmorning people, its a beautiful day and I’m in the mood for some ‘woman to woman’ talk. I’m sure we are all conversant with the quote ‘Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man’. As easy as it is to say, it is quite harder to really fully live by. Believe me, living with a mother that deals with a lot of women’s experiences makes you understand really that a majority of women actually subdue themselves to being the weaker sex. Unfortunately this trait is heavily dominant is our beloved Nigeria.
I doubt if it is just a personally decision of some women personally to just by remain oblivious of their strengths as women. I would like to believe that some women have not just heard or read the right things to put them straight.
I’m using this as a platform to reach out to women or girls aspiring to be fully empowered women. Not like I have a degree in women affairs or the sort, this is just what I’ve learned from my mother and three truly empowered sisters.
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EMPOWER YOURSELF.
Wake up each morning expecting good things to happen. Embrace each day, each morning with enthusiasm and excitement. As women, we are truly easily moved by our emotions and moods. So enthusiasm is paramount for your day.

The truth is that it is easier for you as a woman to lead a group of men to a higher level of performance than it is for your male colleagues. So, accept each challenge as tests of ability, opportunities for strength and character building.

Minimize your femininity, forget that you have a very emotional nature and strive for anything you want to do, sentiments aside. Although don’t shun the woman you are. (Sensibly use what you have to get what you want)

Always believe that you possessing what it takes! Don not let anything or anybody talk you down.

Take time for regular personal development and the exploration ofimportant life principles. For a growing number of women, that means being active in their discussion groups, reading books, being involved in talks and empowerment speeches.

Be creative and don’t let guys talk you down or make you feel less or weaker than you actually are.

In all these remember that every woman is a strong willed and minded individual that can reach full potential at any time same with a man!. ‘When we do the best we can , we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another.’ – Helen Keller.

This post is particularly dedicated to my mother; Mrs Bridget .A. Edoro (KSM) For empowering me since I was old enough to poop by myself through her own strong behaviour and experiences. I Love You!.

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My Girlfriends®.

Hey there!. How’s it going?. Good?. Boring?. Okay! Nice to know.
Anyway, I was having a conversation with one of my friends today, and she started laying complaints about her supposed ‘boyfriend’. Afterall she said, I wondered if the guy in question actually loved her or if he even cared about her. Thinking about it for so long till it finally hit me hit me; She is his Side Chick and she didn’t even know!!!. Okay, for the slower ones amongst us, a side chick is a girl or a woman who gives a man, many times than most, what he is lacking in his real relationship (wild sex, a listening ear, and no serious commitment). Sadly, a lot of girls believe that they are in relationships when it turns out that they are just side chicks!. Kudos to consistent playboys who find it very easy to cover up their tracks without the side chick realising that they are not the main chicks. Yes, It is hard to believe that a sensible girl wouldn’t notice when she’s the side chick, it still happens that most are completely oblivious to the stand of their relationship. Well, you need not worry because I’m here with help! Below are personally thought out examples of guy behaviours that prove that you are the side chick. 😀 Stay calm and read
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SIGNS THAT YOU ARE HIS SIDE CHICK!

Lets start from the basics:
He doesn’t showcase your relationship on social networks.(twitter, Facebook, bbm) Or worse still you tweet at him and he sends you a DM!
What’s the excuse? He’s shy?, Doesn’t want publicity? He says he doesn’t want people to know about you?? All lies!! (except in very rare occasions, very very rare occasions)
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!

The only compliments he gives you are ‘Oh you’re so hot!’ ‘Your boobs look great’ ‘I want to eat you up!’ No compliments like ‘You’re smart’ ‘You inspire me’…. Sweetie open your eyes!!
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!

He never answers her call when he’s with you
He takes the call in another room
He takes the call in your presence but puts the volume real low and gives short replies… Hmmm
Verdict: Either you are the SIDE CHICK or the Main chick and he’s cheating on you!!

You’ve never met his parents or any important member of his family, and he’s not interested in meeting yours… *sigh* Can’t you read between the lines??
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!!

He hardly calls you during the day, only at night or at odd hours and always gives the excuse of being busy… Or only wants to see you at awkward hours (P.S. If a guy truly cares about a lady, no matter how busy his schedules are, he’ll make out time!!)
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!

He Hardly listens to your emotional words, hardly asks about your welfare or the most he asks is ‘How’s that big booty doing?’. You guys don’t talk often, just get down to the sex! My dear, Pele o!
Verdict: SIDE CHICK or maybe his booty call!

If you keep asking about your future with him and he keeps saying he’s not ready to settle down or he cannot define your relationship.
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!!

If he always keeps you in guesthouses or hotels or you two always just stay at your place and you’ve never been to his house!!
Listen up!! Its screaming!!!
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!!

So there it goes, my personal evaluations on those guy behaviours that prove you are a side chick. Most of which are entirely true, but some can be exempted though in the rarest situation. But you need serious help if after reading this you still do not know when you are the side chick!!
Be wise!!
See you next time!! Ciao!!

Guys, What do you think? Have you been there and done that? Please gist me of other signs you may know of. Comments are welcome in the box below!!
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See ya soon!

Hey there!. How’s it going?. Good?. Boring?. Okay! Nice to know.
Anyway, I was having a conversation with one of my friends today, and she started laying complaints about her supposed ‘boyfriend’. Afterall she said, I wondered if the guy in question actually loved her or if he even cared about her. Thinking about it for so long till it finally hit me hit me; She is his Side Chick and she didn’t even know!!!. Okay, for the slower ones amongst us, a side chick is a girl or a woman who gives a man, many times than most, what he is lacking in his real relationship (wild sex, a listening ear, and no serious commitment). Sadly, a lot of girls believe that they are in relationships when it turns out that they are just side chicks!. Kudos to consistent playboys who find it very easy to cover up their tracks without the side chick realising that they are not the main chicks. Yes, It is hard to believe that a sensible girl wouldn’t notice when she’s the side chick, it still happens that most are completely oblivious to the stand of their relationship. Well, you need not worry because I’m here with help! Below are personally thought out examples of guy behaviours that prove that you are the side chick. 😀 Stay calm and read
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SIGNS THAT YOU ARE HIS SIDE CHICK!

Lets start from the basics:
He doesn’t showcase your relationship on social networks.(twitter, Facebook, bbm) Or worse still you tweet at him and he sends you a DM!
What’s the excuse? He’s shy?, Doesn’t want publicity? He says he doesn’t want people to know about you?? All lies!! (except in very rare occasions, very very rare occasions)
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!

The only compliments he gives you are ‘Oh you’re so hot!’ ‘Your boobs look great’ ‘I want to eat you up!’ No compliments like ‘You’re smart’ ‘You inspire me’…. Sweetie open your eyes!!
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!

He never answers her call when he’s with you
He takes the call in another room
He takes the call in your presence but puts the volume real low and gives short replies… Hmmm
Verdict: Either you are the SIDE CHICK or the Main chick and he’s cheating on you!!

You’ve never met his parents or any important member of his family, and he’s not interested in meeting yours… *sigh* Can’t you read between the lines??
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!!

He hardly calls you during the day, only at night or at odd hours and always gives the excuse of being busy… Or only wants to see you at awkward hours (P.S. If a guy truly cares about a lady, no matter how busy his schedules are, he’ll make out time!!)
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!

He Hardly listens to your emotional words, hardly asks about your welfare or the most he asks is ‘How’s that big booty doing?’. You guys don’t talk often, just get down to the sex! My dear, Pele o!
Verdict: SIDE CHICK or maybe his booty call!

If you keep asking about your future with him and he keeps saying he’s not ready to settle down or he cannot define your relationship.
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!!

If he always keeps you in guesthouses or hotels or you two always just stay at your place and you’ve never been to his house!!
Listen up!! Its screaming!!!
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!!

So there it goes, my personal evaluations on those guy behaviours that prove you are a side chick. Most of which are entirely true, but some can be exempted though in the rarest situation. But you need serious help if after reading this you still do not know when you are the side chick!!
Be wise!!
See you next time!! Ciao!!

Guys, What do you think? Have you been there and done that? Please gist me of other signs you may know of. Comments are welcome in the box below!!
You could also follow @Mae_Greg
See ya soon!

As timeless as this question is, it still remains one of the unanswered controversies in the aspect of dating and psychology. What do men really really want?. Let’s over look the general mis guided conception that all men want is sex! Personally I believe that only shallow minded men look for just sex in a relationship. But taking it in deep and trying to get to the core of a man’s want is hard. Unlike us women, our intentions are laid bare ranging from demanding gentleness or trust, or care, it all boils down to the same thing; a woman wants security! Well, we are here to talk of men!. After a series of failed relationships and a recent group discussion, I dare to try and state what I think men want.
First of all, I think what a man wants in a relationship is a safe place to relax, stress free, nag-free, away from te facade of the world and just be himself with his woman.
Men don’t want their relationships to be a second job of some sort! Men want a place where they can be accepted for who they are and for who they are not! Men want consistency and routine, because that is what relaxes them. ”Same place, same thing” calms them down. Yes, they like change and excitement from time to time, but what they really want in our primary relationship is a place where they can be at peace, where wedon’t have to have our “fight or flight” response triggered.
They want a safe landing zone after all the soaring around. They want to know that there’s someone at home waiting to listen to all their exciting experiences and just be there for them!.
In as much as men don’t want to multitask and they don’t want to speak in the language of feelings. They’re not built to do these things optimally. They can do them, and of course, sometimes must, but they’re not designedto do them very well.
Keep in mind that a man will always be a man though. This is just a personal view on what I think men want. You think otherwise?

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I never really saw anything wrong in being in a relationship with an older man. Despite the common distaste the general public has, I personally saw no harm in dating a man older than me (P.S. Not for money though, but plain mutual feelings). Anyway, all that changed when I got my experience.
I was 20 years old when I met Lamide. He had come to unwind with some of his friends that Friday night at Aphro Lounge club. As fate would have it, I was also there with my friends. Naturally, I didn’t even notice him until he sent a bottle of champagne to my table with the fireworks and all. Some minutes after that, he came over by himself. To be honest, at first I was sure he thought I was a call girl, so I immediately told him bluntly ‘No! I’m not a call girl, I will not sleep with you, I don’t want your money!’. He smiled and asked me my name; ‘Mary’ I replied. He introduced himself, he said he liked my shoes and before I knew it, we were talking about Loubitin, Gene Bendi, Predictions!. Anyway after a few more drinks I gave him my digits and left the club. So, that was how our love story began. Surprisingly, Lamide never demanded anything sexual from me. It was a very normal relationship only more mature than any other relationship I had been in, ofcourse what did I expect Lamide was 49, divorced wife in Miami with legal custody of 3kids!!. We always got ‘the look’ when we went out together. My friends were always asking me questions and all but I chose to blindly ignore. (Love is blind you know) . Anyways 7months into our relationship, I was the one now asking questions. Not about him, no, but about us! Our future. What next?!. Well, I’m not one to propose to a guy but I had to hold the reins here and ask Lamide about his plans for our marriage and family life. He burst out laughing at first but when he saw that I was serious, he apologised. Well, he told me the truth and admitted that he didn’t have plans for our ‘future’. He said he had lived his life, two boys and a girl with a huge bank account was a life well lived!. To him, we were two adults in a mature relationship enjoying the companionship of each other!!. Reactionary shock caused me to break up with him on the spot!. Anyway, that was 2years ago. Now I stick to dating guys my own age or within my age group.
I obviously do not hold any sort of believe that any relationship with men in your parents age range can work! Except you are ready to be his hand bag, or a platform for him to try to regain his youth!.Little or no benefits come out from such. But of course, this is still based on personal evaluation!. Amiable reader, what do you think? Dating an older man, is it advisable or do you agree with me?

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SEX IS A GIFT

I was watching a programme early this morning that  had to do with eliminating idolatry by Pastor Mark Driscoll. For obvious reasons, I assumed this talk was concerned with worshipping idols, black magic et al. But he talked about Sex. And I was strongly inspired by his talk.
           Church and religion aside, Sex is supposed to be between one man and one woman. We know this, The African culture and tradition forbids sex before marriage, but due to western impact it is seen as old fashioned and unreasonable. Why does this seem so?.. Those old fashioned traditionalists had reasons to believe that sex before marriage was wrong because of the unending consequences which include unplanned pregnancy, physical injuries (because the young ones may not be able to do it well), diseases, future condemnation. We have heard the stories time without number, we have seen it happen in front of our eyes but still we still get that pull to continue to go behind backs and continue to have unjustified sex. This were the religious aspect comes in.
 Sex is deeply spiritual. First, we have to remember that sex involves the ‘body’ or ‘bodies’. What did Jesus sacrifice for our sins? His Body. So you see, sex is a sacrifice of the body for a cause which is procreation. But when it is for other purposes such as plain pleasure without being in that sacred commitment called ‘marriage’, it becomes idolatry. Idolatry in the sense that you now offer your  body as the sacrifice and the second person becomes the ‘god’ to whom you offer the sacrifice to. Because we defy God’s commandment (Do not commit fornication or adultery) we put Him second in our life and put sex as the number 1, as your ‘god’ and the sacrifice you continually offer to it is your body. Thinking about it, sex is not the one getting these sacrifices, No, this is the devil’s own. Let’s remember that as fornication and adultery  are sins, they are now tools of the devil and he uses this freely on human beings to trap us and try to disperse us from God’s blessings. Another great tool that the devil also uses is Pornography. This is so common among the youth of today. It is seen as normal to watch Porn and it doesn’t feel wrong to do this. Lets realise that what we  watch, read, see, fills up or minds, thereby leaving little or no space left for God, The Author of Our Lives. All these as we know can see are the designs of the devil just to constantly distract us from God. 
   I hope with this little opinion based write up you can see reasons with the old fashioned and decide who you want to serve, God or Sex. Remember, Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit.

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