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Howdy!. My post today, is on older dating, the precautions, problems, basic principles involved in mature dating.
Older single women are easily written off as the ones who would never find love again. In Nigeria especially, a woman who is still single at age 45 would already be considered as a ‘forever single candidate’. In all honesty, it is harder to date once you have advanced a certain age. All I can say is Love has no best before date. No matter how old you are, there is a right person patiently waiting for you. Although, Dating at an older age entails a lot of things than just the surface dating process. Because as time passes, a lot is acquired and a lot of factors are bound to make dating harder at this age; series of heartbreaks from past relationships, a child or more out of wedlock, ex husbands, differences in circumstances and life experiences, less people in the dating market, lack of time, energy and mobility to start the whole dating scenario.

However, all these shouldnt turn you down and make you discouraged. If you really want a sole mate I suggest that you go for it! Below are some common guidelines to mature dating.

Once you meet someone that you are interested in then you can be as serious or otherwise as you like. Do not feel that this hasto end in marriage or that sex even has to be involved – at this age you make the rules and if you set clear guidelines at the start then you can enjoy a relationship that will give youboth what you need without getting too complicated.

Mutual Respect: Others are just as valuable as you
Our generation has made history as ambassadors of a “what’s-in-it-for-me” society. Much of the dating advice today supports this attitude. Just make your wishlist and check it against your date. While dating can be fun, for most mature singles it is about finding a life-mate. When you date, treat him with respect. Be on time and be interested. If there is mutual attraction, share your likes and dislikes openly. Don’t get lost in keeping score.
Respect that a first date is a fishing trip to determine if there is enough interest for a second date. By all means give each other achance. If you are not interested, don’t leadhim on. You are mature and don’t need a black book filled with admirers. If you like him, but the feeling is not mutual, make it easy to call the quits. Treat your date the way you would want to be treated.
Moral Responsibility: You are always morally responsible to those with whom youhave a relationship
This begs the question as to when a relationship begins. You have graduated from the coffee shop to seeing a movie. He wined and dinned you and now invites you to a barbeque with friends. While this is not a marriage proposal, it is nevertheless personal. No red flags have popped up yet and you accept the invitation. This has the potential for a relationship.
Now is the time to get to know him instead of looking over the shoulder for other suitors. Here is why: often relationships between dating singles neverdevelop because they are occupied with multiple dates. Sleeping with multiple datesis morally irresponsible to each one. Be as responsible as you would be to your best friend, because he may be that some day.
Authenticity: Love only happens when youare real
*. Have you ever found yourself laughing simply because everyone else did? Told someone you had a fabulous time when you didn’t or said: “I love you” when you didn’t mean it? Did you ever do something inconsistent with your true self just to please someone or get what you wanted?
Of course we all have. We have lost the bravery to be real! For many there is quite a gap between the person inside and the person we present to the world. In the competitive world of dating misrepresentation is at an all time high.
If you seek love, forget about how to make him fall in love with you. Forget about Mars and Venus, in the real world we are all human beings first, men and women second. Most singles over 50 want to love and belong. Wear what makes you feel like a million dollar babe, not what you think impresses him.
While you are not to disclose your sexual history on a first date, be straightforward ontopics that you are comfortable with. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Be authentic and be honest! Don’t waste your precious time pretending to be what you arenot. You may not land many second dates, but at this stage it is about quality, not quantity. Love only happens when you are real.

You might have been out of the game for a while, but there is no reason that it is too lateto get back on the horse and if you do then you are likely to find that the benefits drastically outweigh the difficulties as you find a partner to share your life with.

Thanks for reading. Please share your opinions in the comment box below.

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Hey there!. How’s it going?. Good?. Boring?. Okay! Nice to know.
Anyway, I was having a conversation with one of my friends today, and she started laying complaints about her supposed ‘boyfriend’. Afterall she said, I wondered if the guy in question actually loved her or if he even cared about her. Thinking about it for so long till it finally hit me hit me; She is his Side Chick and she didn’t even know!!!. Okay, for the slower ones amongst us, a side chick is a girl or a woman who gives a man, many times than most, what he is lacking in his real relationship (wild sex, a listening ear, and no serious commitment). Sadly, a lot of girls believe that they are in relationships when it turns out that they are just side chicks!. Kudos to consistent playboys who find it very easy to cover up their tracks without the side chick realising that they are not the main chicks. Yes, It is hard to believe that a sensible girl wouldn’t notice when she’s the side chick, it still happens that most are completely oblivious to the stand of their relationship. Well, you need not worry because I’m here with help! Below are personally thought out examples of guy behaviours that prove that you are the side chick. 😀 Stay calm and read
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SIGNS THAT YOU ARE HIS SIDE CHICK!

Lets start from the basics:
He doesn’t showcase your relationship on social networks.(twitter, Facebook, bbm) Or worse still you tweet at him and he sends you a DM!
What’s the excuse? He’s shy?, Doesn’t want publicity? He says he doesn’t want people to know about you?? All lies!! (except in very rare occasions, very very rare occasions)
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!

The only compliments he gives you are ‘Oh you’re so hot!’ ‘Your boobs look great’ ‘I want to eat you up!’ No compliments like ‘You’re smart’ ‘You inspire me’…. Sweetie open your eyes!!
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!

He never answers her call when he’s with you
He takes the call in another room
He takes the call in your presence but puts the volume real low and gives short replies… Hmmm
Verdict: Either you are the SIDE CHICK or the Main chick and he’s cheating on you!!

You’ve never met his parents or any important member of his family, and he’s not interested in meeting yours… *sigh* Can’t you read between the lines??
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!!

He hardly calls you during the day, only at night or at odd hours and always gives the excuse of being busy… Or only wants to see you at awkward hours (P.S. If a guy truly cares about a lady, no matter how busy his schedules are, he’ll make out time!!)
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!

He Hardly listens to your emotional words, hardly asks about your welfare or the most he asks is ‘How’s that big booty doing?’. You guys don’t talk often, just get down to the sex! My dear, Pele o!
Verdict: SIDE CHICK or maybe his booty call!

If you keep asking about your future with him and he keeps saying he’s not ready to settle down or he cannot define your relationship.
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!!

If he always keeps you in guesthouses or hotels or you two always just stay at your place and you’ve never been to his house!!
Listen up!! Its screaming!!!
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!!

So there it goes, my personal evaluations on those guy behaviours that prove you are a side chick. Most of which are entirely true, but some can be exempted though in the rarest situation. But you need serious help if after reading this you still do not know when you are the side chick!!
Be wise!!
See you next time!! Ciao!!

Guys, What do you think? Have you been there and done that? Please gist me of other signs you may know of. Comments are welcome in the box below!!
You could also follow @Mae_Greg
See ya soon!

Hey there!. How’s it going?. Good?. Boring?. Okay! Nice to know.
Anyway, I was having a conversation with one of my friends today, and she started laying complaints about her supposed ‘boyfriend’. Afterall she said, I wondered if the guy in question actually loved her or if he even cared about her. Thinking about it for so long till it finally hit me hit me; She is his Side Chick and she didn’t even know!!!. Okay, for the slower ones amongst us, a side chick is a girl or a woman who gives a man, many times than most, what he is lacking in his real relationship (wild sex, a listening ear, and no serious commitment). Sadly, a lot of girls believe that they are in relationships when it turns out that they are just side chicks!. Kudos to consistent playboys who find it very easy to cover up their tracks without the side chick realising that they are not the main chicks. Yes, It is hard to believe that a sensible girl wouldn’t notice when she’s the side chick, it still happens that most are completely oblivious to the stand of their relationship. Well, you need not worry because I’m here with help! Below are personally thought out examples of guy behaviours that prove that you are the side chick. 😀 Stay calm and read
*****************************
SIGNS THAT YOU ARE HIS SIDE CHICK!

Lets start from the basics:
He doesn’t showcase your relationship on social networks.(twitter, Facebook, bbm) Or worse still you tweet at him and he sends you a DM!
What’s the excuse? He’s shy?, Doesn’t want publicity? He says he doesn’t want people to know about you?? All lies!! (except in very rare occasions, very very rare occasions)
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!

The only compliments he gives you are ‘Oh you’re so hot!’ ‘Your boobs look great’ ‘I want to eat you up!’ No compliments like ‘You’re smart’ ‘You inspire me’…. Sweetie open your eyes!!
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!

He never answers her call when he’s with you
He takes the call in another room
He takes the call in your presence but puts the volume real low and gives short replies… Hmmm
Verdict: Either you are the SIDE CHICK or the Main chick and he’s cheating on you!!

You’ve never met his parents or any important member of his family, and he’s not interested in meeting yours… *sigh* Can’t you read between the lines??
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!!

He hardly calls you during the day, only at night or at odd hours and always gives the excuse of being busy… Or only wants to see you at awkward hours (P.S. If a guy truly cares about a lady, no matter how busy his schedules are, he’ll make out time!!)
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!

He Hardly listens to your emotional words, hardly asks about your welfare or the most he asks is ‘How’s that big booty doing?’. You guys don’t talk often, just get down to the sex! My dear, Pele o!
Verdict: SIDE CHICK or maybe his booty call!

If you keep asking about your future with him and he keeps saying he’s not ready to settle down or he cannot define your relationship.
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!!

If he always keeps you in guesthouses or hotels or you two always just stay at your place and you’ve never been to his house!!
Listen up!! Its screaming!!!
Verdict: SIDE CHICK!!!

So there it goes, my personal evaluations on those guy behaviours that prove you are a side chick. Most of which are entirely true, but some can be exempted though in the rarest situation. But you need serious help if after reading this you still do not know when you are the side chick!!
Be wise!!
See you next time!! Ciao!!

Guys, What do you think? Have you been there and done that? Please gist me of other signs you may know of. Comments are welcome in the box below!!
You could also follow @Mae_Greg
See ya soon!

I never really saw anything wrong in being in a relationship with an older man. Despite the common distaste the general public has, I personally saw no harm in dating a man older than me (P.S. Not for money though, but plain mutual feelings). Anyway, all that changed when I got my experience.
I was 20 years old when I met Lamide. He had come to unwind with some of his friends that Friday night at Aphro Lounge club. As fate would have it, I was also there with my friends. Naturally, I didn’t even notice him until he sent a bottle of champagne to my table with the fireworks and all. Some minutes after that, he came over by himself. To be honest, at first I was sure he thought I was a call girl, so I immediately told him bluntly ‘No! I’m not a call girl, I will not sleep with you, I don’t want your money!’. He smiled and asked me my name; ‘Mary’ I replied. He introduced himself, he said he liked my shoes and before I knew it, we were talking about Loubitin, Gene Bendi, Predictions!. Anyway after a few more drinks I gave him my digits and left the club. So, that was how our love story began. Surprisingly, Lamide never demanded anything sexual from me. It was a very normal relationship only more mature than any other relationship I had been in, ofcourse what did I expect Lamide was 49, divorced wife in Miami with legal custody of 3kids!!. We always got ‘the look’ when we went out together. My friends were always asking me questions and all but I chose to blindly ignore. (Love is blind you know) . Anyways 7months into our relationship, I was the one now asking questions. Not about him, no, but about us! Our future. What next?!. Well, I’m not one to propose to a guy but I had to hold the reins here and ask Lamide about his plans for our marriage and family life. He burst out laughing at first but when he saw that I was serious, he apologised. Well, he told me the truth and admitted that he didn’t have plans for our ‘future’. He said he had lived his life, two boys and a girl with a huge bank account was a life well lived!. To him, we were two adults in a mature relationship enjoying the companionship of each other!!. Reactionary shock caused me to break up with him on the spot!. Anyway, that was 2years ago. Now I stick to dating guys my own age or within my age group.
I obviously do not hold any sort of believe that any relationship with men in your parents age range can work! Except you are ready to be his hand bag, or a platform for him to try to regain his youth!.Little or no benefits come out from such. But of course, this is still based on personal evaluation!. Amiable reader, what do you think? Dating an older man, is it advisable or do you agree with me?

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