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You’ve been dating the love of your life for years now, you both have been through it all, the good, the bad and the ugly, you are pretty sure he’s the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, but you don’t know whether or not he wants to take you to the altar!. Sweetheart you need to sit down and consider the signs he’s been giving you!

SIGNS THAT HE WON’T MARRY YOU
1. He’s Evasive About the Future
It is generally not a good idea to discuss marriage and babies on the first date.if you and your guy talk about jobs, careers, rent, trips, family and holidays, you should trust the relationship enough to discuss your future. Otherwise it becomes a vicious circle if neither of you bringing it up while the woman is silently waiting for something to change. This just causes more doubt and uneasiness. You’ll be surprised how this type of discussion isn’t soscary or difficult with the right guy.

2. He Wants to Be More Successful, More Financially Secure
There is intense pressure for men to be the breadwinner. Even though most women I know are successful professionals, it’s understandable that most men want to knowthey can provide for their wife and family. While there is a time and place to focus on a career or education, to constantly hear “I’m not in a place to marry anyone right now” is confusing and frustrating. It keeps a relationship in perpetual limbo. Also, it repeatedly tells the woman that this decision isn’t hers. Instead it is when he is “ready.” Who really knows the hard times couples mayface together in the future? Recognize that his resistance may be to marrying you.

3. He “Doesn’t Know”: . If you feel confident you are with the man you want to marry and asking him elicits a half-hearted, non-committal answer — realize what’s really going on. No one should take marriage lightly, but at some point, you must lay all your cards on the table. What other information does he think he needs to know?When in doubt, direct questions often give you the right answer even if when it is “I don’t know.” It may not be what you want to hear, but it’s the truth.

4. He Can Only Talk about Weddings or Marriage While Being Sarcastic, Ironic or Snarky
Every chance he gets, your boyfriend makes cynical, snarky remarks about marriage.sometimes you feel this is an edgy, non-conformist personality and you like it.You better see it now as a glaring neon sign tellingyou its never going to happen.

Ultimately it’s not about a wedding. It’s not about the proposal story or a ring on your finger. It’s about two people falling in love and wanting to build a life together. If you’re deeply unhappy with someone but you think his proposal will change things, it won’t. It will distract you from the real issues for a while, but they will still be there. Marriage canbe a wonderful thing, but only if both parties are equally committed. Trust me, you don’t want to talk someone into wanting to marry you. If he’s giving you signs that he doesn’t want to marry you, heed them. You’ll thank him years from now.

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As timeless as this question is, it still remains one of the unanswered controversies in the aspect of dating and psychology. What do men really really want?. Let’s over look the general mis guided conception that all men want is sex! Personally I believe that only shallow minded men look for just sex in a relationship. But taking it in deep and trying to get to the core of a man’s want is hard. Unlike us women, our intentions are laid bare ranging from demanding gentleness or trust, or care, it all boils down to the same thing; a woman wants security! Well, we are here to talk of men!. After a series of failed relationships and a recent group discussion, I dare to try and state what I think men want.
First of all, I think what a man wants in a relationship is a safe place to relax, stress free, nag-free, away from te facade of the world and just be himself with his woman.
Men don’t want their relationships to be a second job of some sort! Men want a place where they can be accepted for who they are and for who they are not! Men want consistency and routine, because that is what relaxes them. ”Same place, same thing” calms them down. Yes, they like change and excitement from time to time, but what they really want in our primary relationship is a place where they can be at peace, where wedon’t have to have our “fight or flight” response triggered.
They want a safe landing zone after all the soaring around. They want to know that there’s someone at home waiting to listen to all their exciting experiences and just be there for them!.
In as much as men don’t want to multitask and they don’t want to speak in the language of feelings. They’re not built to do these things optimally. They can do them, and of course, sometimes must, but they’re not designedto do them very well.
Keep in mind that a man will always be a man though. This is just a personal view on what I think men want. You think otherwise?

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